At the very beginning of every day, you follow the same routine you’ve stuck to for years. You get out of bed, scroll through the notifications on your phone, freshen up, glance over your wardrobe and if you’re lucky, grab something to eat before heading out the door.
Behind all of your daily rituals and the time, money and effort you’ve put into your appearance, there is someone out there that you want to impress. You’re willing to do anything, even if it means living a lie and losing sight of your true, authentic self in the shadows of the dark.
You wonder, how will I become myself again? Well, like many other great things in life, it takes time. It’s also a lot like taking care of a plant—you observe the small details, cut out the parts that have dried out, nourish it, set it out in the sun and watch it grow. These steps can be pretty straight-forward with levels of difficulty that vary on a case-by-case basis.
The course of your life can change anytime, which means that you’ll have to adapt to your new environment as soon as possible. Loving yourself, coming to terms with what you like, what you dislike and how you behave in different scenarios are fool-proof ways of finding your identity.
Even if you aren’t aware of it, being your true self provides people with a glimpse into your soul, your perception of the world, what motivates you to think, feel and behave a certain way. It’s also what drives you to reach certain goals that you want to achieve in life. The list goes on.
You can’t create a list in a day and expect all of your answers to come rushing in. Personal growth is something to experience over months and years, but it’s totally worth it once you take a step closer toward fulfilling your purpose in this world.
Stop trying to maintain an image that doesn’t resonate with who you are. So what if you’ve spent your money just to look and live like your favorite celebrity or role model? That’s their life, not yours.
The same idea applies to this persona that was either created by you or someone else. So here you are in another social setting, doing what’s expected of you by others, participating in a conversation that don’t even interest to you, laughing to almost all of the jokes you hear, smiling when you’re unsure of what to say and acting until it’s all over just to play it safe.
You continue this cycle for as long as you can get away with it, but can’t because everything seems to be falling out-of-place. As soon as all of these pressures begin to add up, you start to wonder why you even put up with it. You become unsatisfied with where you are in life because let’s face it, your personal growth has come to a halt.
Contrary to what you might think, people are going to catch up the very second your character appears out-of-place—you can’t fool everyone forever.
So challenge yourself and find your own style, which surely, will be beautiful in it’s own way. In the meantime, make it a goal to for personal growth and to appreciate the smaller details in life because eventually, you’ll find your place in this world.