Complete silence. Dead as a doornail. Pause. Just like that, a conversation comes to a stop. It’s something that people worry about because they aren’t quite sure how to interpret it in general terms.
But then their minds start to wander, as their doubts and concerns start to eat away at their self-consciousness. They ask themselves questions like: Am I weird? Boring? Do I have anything in common with this person? Can we see eye-to-eye? Agree to disagree? Is this conversation over? Do I just let this person go? Are they even paying attention?
Well, that depends on how close the relationship is between the people in question. As we all know, stressing about it won’t make much of a difference for anyone involved in this scenario.
So what can we do about this? What’s the first step? Sometimes we have to understand that this person needs their own space. It’s a sign of respect. It gives them time to make their own decisions like whether they want to return the gesture or not? And then there’s so much more to consider after-the-fact.
Everyone’s got their own style of social etiquette, which mainly goes back to the way they were raised, their background and their personal tolerance for social settings. While this may seem pretty obvious to some, others need a reminder from time-to-time.
However, there’s one question that could be easily missed by all—how badly this person wants you to be in their life? Once you figure it out, the direction of your relationship will become easier to manage. People tend to pitch in the same amount of effort into a relationship that they value.
Regardless, it’s always refreshing to move onto new ventures and new people, who are just as happy with having you in their lives.