Writing: Your Cure to Happiness

I’ve always thought of myself as a better writer than a speaker. Don’t get me wrong, I’m pretty darn good at sharing my own thoughts, building relationships and what-not. However, there’s something about writing that is so much easier. So therapeutic.

I’ve always fancied the idea that I was always careful with words before initiating in conversation. While that concept alone may be debatable by -ahem- my mother, for instance, I have to admit that I find it much easier to blurt out words on paper than in person.

Maybe it has to do with the fact that I’m a better listener. Writing has always soothed my nerves on a bad day. I find comfort in typing away at my thoughts, feelings, dreams and ambitions because I can do so at my own pace. On my own terms. It helps me organize my mind a bit more.

Perhaps it has a lot to do with the fast-paced lifestyle of us Los Angelenos, who, for the most part, prefer getting straight-to-the-point. With creative writing, you don’t always have to care what others think of you. There’s already a lot of freedom in that.

You have so much more space and time to get your mind out there. At the end of the day, writing is another outlet to share our daily struggles.

Even if no one reads your writing, at least you can write about your problems and then delete it whenever you’d like. If you choose to publish content, it might just save someone else’s life.

Chicken noodle soup for the tired soul

The first time I ever felt depressed was when I was 11 years old back in 2004. I was staring down at my bathtub surrounded by dark and cool white walls that resembled what I’d imagine to be like an asylum. Not much air flowed through the room in addition to it being lifeless and dull that one’s voice could echo across the room.

As I faced to look outside past the barred windows, everyday seemed pretty grey. Regardless of whether or not the weather was nice, I wasn’t really allowed to enjoy much of it. Hence why everyday was easily a very dismal day. But this day was different. For once, I felt a sense of melancholy which then turned into a void.

My soul felt exhausted as if I’d lived much longer than someone my age. No feelings, just emptiness like a barren wasteland. Yet, I couldn’t understand why for many years after that. These thoughts and feelings never really stopped. Like poison, they sunk back right in to rot my mind, body and soul.

I knew that I couldn’t afford medical attention. Even if I could, I was too shy to talk about my problems with anyone let alone a professional. Five years pass until I hit my final straw- or so I thought.

I was tired of peer pressure and other not-so-pleasing circumstances that come with being impoverished. So I stood yet again, hovering over my bathtub, but this time, I wasn’t alone. I came with a small kitchen knife, debating whether or not I should just plunge it into my gut.

At that moment in my life, I saw the faces of everyone I cared for flash before my eyes. I walked to the kitchen to return the knife. As each year passed, I slowly started to understand myself more. I was still depressed, but never diagnosed as such.

While I did face similar issues as I got older, I survived every one of those episodes with more experience. In a sense, it was all a work-in-progress to build resolve in fighting through the trials and tribulations that have yet to come my way.

3 Easy Ways To Improve Your Memory And Survive A Busy Schedule

Lately, it’s become a struggle to remember the smaller details that you’ve forgotten throughout the day. You’ve forgotten things like what you ate for breakfast or what you said about an hour ago and that’s okay! Those things belong in the past!

I’m totally with you and I’ve listed three ways to help you survive your busy schedule starting with this one:

Create a list of things that you have to do

List the most important things that you have to do right now. Like that new project that you have to finish within an hour or the fact that you can actually set some time aside to grab some lunch and maybe a coffee.

Make sure to take care of the time-sensitive things first and then work your way down the rest of the list. Don’t sweat it if the day has already come to an end. You’ve got a lot less on your plate now!

Cut out the fluff

Cut out the habits that you can live without. Indulge occasionally. Are you addicted to social media, but have so much to do? Unless it’s something serious, surely, your friends can wait.

Are you watching YouTube videos and gaming the night away? An hour or two of that is plenty because there’s enough leveling-up to do in real life.

Take care of yourself

This part can’t be said enough. Make sure to drink plenty of water and eat full meals throughout the day. You’ll want to do everything that you can to stop those nasty headaches.

Try to change your daily routine. Your health is at the door, but your brain says your schedule’s booked!

Opening Your Heart Will Change Your Life For The Better

In the day and during the night, you look past all of the lights that shine around you. Your skin feels cold to the touch just looking at the grey clouds in the sky so far away. Time feels like it’s stretching further apart. An hour feels like forever. You stare at the minutes on the clock and feel as if your heart is turning into stone with every second that passes you by.

That’s the feeling of loneliness weighing you down. It closes your heart and poisons your mind. It only takes a little bit of time before you tell yourself that your life isn’t going to get any better. But we all know that that’s a complete lie.

You try to put up a fight, but your body feels so weak– helpless. Hope and faith are two words that never sounded so stupid before up until now. Yet, there’s a reason why you keep reaching out to other people for help. There’s nothing stupid about any of it at all.

So keep reaching out to even more people, keep fighting the same war and keep your chin up. Eventually, the people that you need in your life will come to find you. Yes, they will find you. They will fight this battle along with you, support you and love you just the way you are.

They will hold your hands when you’re feeling lost and light up the small places in your heart that you’ve left forgotten. Their hugs will melt away all of your problems. The problems that have weighed you down for so many years as if for centuries.

That weight around your heart will only feel lighter. Life only gets better.

 

3 Things You Should Know About A Stylish Delight

Up until January, I was just like you. I always judged myself because I thought I wasn’t perfect. For me, that meant being a perfect woman, daughter and the best version of myself.

I always wondered if I was ever going to get to that point in my life. My face was never pretty enough and the number of clothes I owned kept piling up as well.

Then I realized something— it was all in my head. I was just driving myself crazy with all of these bad thoughts. I just took a long time to finally see it. It was through this journey that A Stylish Delight was born just for you.

In addition to it’s focus on mental health, fashion and beauty, here are three things you should know about this website:

I want to help you survive the same struggles as I did

I want to share personal experiences through short bursts of information so that it’s quick and easy to read wherever you go. I also want to avoid writing those long, 1,200-word articles with titles, titles and more studies.

You know, the ones with long words that no one really uses in real life? Not everyone understands or remembers them and besides, it’s just not my style. I just want you to know that you are not alone in this journey.

Mental health is a gateway to inner beauty

This website is about accepting the beauty of our hearts and minds. You are more beautiful than you’ll ever realize, but in order to get a preview of that, you’ll have to put in work, too. Ugh, I know, right?

Who said that becoming a better version of yourself was going to be easy? In a world where we see almost everything at face value, it’s easy to forget that we are human beings, too. Now all you have to do is accept everything about yourself.

It started off as a nightly journal entry on an iPhone

For the past two years, I would take out my iPhone and jot down all of the thoughts that bothered me. I would think about the things that I said or the way I behaved and try to get to the bottom of it. Although I didn’t want to admit it at first, writing my heart out made me feel so much better.

At that time, I didn’t feel like sharing anything with anyone just yet. I was angry, tired and frustrated by the fact that I was handing all of my power to these thoughts that really didn’t matter.

I also knew that getting professional help would cost a lot more money than I can dream of having right now. So instead of feeling bad for myself, I’m sharing what I’ve learned throughout my journey with you!

Much love from yours truly,

Diane

How You Can Face Rejection & Grow As A Person

Right now, you’re having a hard time seeing the bigger picture. Not just any picture, but your picture. You’re still putting the pieces together for hints as to what your future may look like. You find that it’s not as easy as you thought it would be. That’s because life wouldn’t be as interesting if you knew the answers to all of your questions.

So how do you move on when someone doesn’t accept what you have to bring to the table? As painful as rejection is, these are the times when you grow the most as a person. It tests your patience and reminds you of the skills that you need to work on. It’s the cheat-sheet to your next test. What happens next depends on how you choose to act now.

You have the power to change the rest of your life. You’re just getting ready for the next chapter. Learn to accept the answers that you don’t want to hear. You’ll be surprised with what you’ll find. Spend some time to think about them and act on the ones that will work for you.

These experiences could be something that you laugh about with your friends and family in the future. It’s easier to enjoy the journey when you’re with the people that you love.

3 Lessons That Helped Me Conquer Anxiety (How You Can Do It Too)

Do you feel like you’re out of breath? Like your heart’s about to burst out from your chest? That’s because you’re more tired than you think. You’re tired because you’re thinking too much and don’t know how to stop.

It’s been like that for some time now and it’s starting to show. You’re falling behind schedule more often than you’re used to. On top of that, most of your goals look like they’re slipping out of reach. Everyone else looks like they know what they’re doing. Everyone except for you.

Your friends, your peers, that one 22-year-old Instagram star, the doctors, lawyers and anyone with a flashy title, who can afford to pay off a house or two. Why can’t you catch up? Here are the three lessons I’ve learned that help me with anxiety:

Stop comparing yourself to others

You think you’re not as good as everyone else, but that isn’t true at all. Everyone else feels the same way. They’re just much better at hiding it. No one is perfect. Your ups and downs in life are different from everyone else’s. This makes you stronger in your own way. The only thing you have to do is to keep your head on your shoulders. You’re different from everyone else and that’s what’s valuable.

Slow down

Don’t think too much. It’s easy to end up in a dark place, so don’t be afraid to slow down. Save that energy for more important tasks and get those out of the way as soon as you can. You’ll have less to think about. Work on what you can with the time that you have left in the day. Don’t bite off more than you can chew if you can help it. It’s not a nice place to be in. Don’t be afraid to take breaks. You’ll need the energy for later.

Think outside of the box

Sometimes Plan A, B, C and D fail one after another. Don’t freak out. It happens to the best of us. You just need to find a more useful way to deal with it. Take a few steps back and look for the simple things that you can fix right now. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need to. Ask questions when you have to because you’ll think about it, anyways. Don’t make plans for things that you can’t control or make any promises that you can’t keep.

Comment below to share some tips, lessons and tricks that help you with anxiety.