Spinning Out of Control: When The World Comes Crashing Down

My head keeps spinning and I’m starting to lose track of time. As of the past few weeks, I’ve been facing the reality of losing my one and only job as a cashier. I now spend the majority of my time applying for jobs left and right. If not that, then I network with people on LinkedIn or the ones I meet through work.

As soon as I get home from my evening and night shifts, I’m as good as a vegetable. These past three days have only presented themselves as a litmus test as I barely manage to get home by 9 p.m. at the very least. Somehow, I manage to find time to work with my editor-in-chief from my new magazine internship.

I’ve only joined within the past week-and-a-half and already, she seems pretty understanding of it all. Today, however, stressed me out in so many ways. As soon as I woke up, I submitted my 11th job application this past month, took their 10-minute assessment, and started working on an assignment for my internship.

But every step I took backfired and I made mistakes that cost me an hour or two of productivity. Time flew by before I even realized that my deadline was tomorrow, not in two days.

I’m trying to do as much as I can with my current situation. As I began to type the first paragraph of this blog post, my boyfriend called back to talk some sense into me. While all of the above is important, I have to drop one thing off of my schedule— applying for another job on my own.

I have to agree, I’ve submitted as many as I could already. Except for the applications I’m about to submit with the help of a friend I’ll call “S,” who I thank from the bottom of my heart.

Aside from that, I’ll just have to figure out how to balance everything else. It’s amazing how crying and talking over the phone can change your day. I’m going to make mistakes, but I’m not going to give up!

A Busy Person’s Starter Guide To Self-care

Just as the day draws to an end, you realize it’s been at least six hours since your last meal. Your stomach growls in response as you tell yourself that maybe you’ll be able to squeeze an actual meal into your schedule.

It’s 9 p.m. all of a sudden and you’re still attached to your desk, typing away on your laptop computer, when you start rummaging through your stuff to see what kind of snacks you’ve brought along as back-up. Drumroll…there’s not much to eat left. All this work and never enough food. Why do you always do this to yourself?

You grab the one bag of chips you’ve brought along and resume typing until the night melts onto the next day. You head home, stressing because you weren’t able to get much work done and nod off until daytime swiftly approaches. You wake up after a few hours of sleep to find yourself looking all disheveled and withered up like a raisin. Your life hasn’t been going as smoothly as you would’ve liked, but that can change starting now.

You don’t have to eat the healthiest meal right now, but you can start with consuming as much food as you can for breakfast. Real food, not the bag of chips you have leftover, a candy or a granola bar. If that means microwaving leftovers from last night’s dinner, eating instant pre-packaged food or a banana for now, so be it! You need as much fuel as you can possibly get to tackle today’s tasks, especially since you didn’t get a full night’s worth of rest.

As you start your workday, remind yourself to take a 10-20 minute break every couple of hours. Go out and grab some lunch, drink more water, let your mind relax and resist getting back to work right away because you’ll need the energy to produce better results at work. You’ll be thankful much later.

By the time you clock back in, you’ll feel less stressed knowing that you won’t starve, dehydrate or stare at a screen in confusion with redder, itchier eyes. Now you can get back to work with less to think about until your next break. Just repeat and you’ll naturally de-stress.

All that’s left is to set a curfew for yourself. You know, a time you’ll actually stop working on that new assignment? Set a reminder for that. Convince yourself that you have to go home by all means because you’re going to want enough time for dinner and sleep. This will take some getting used to, but resist the urge to give up and keep trying. After all, you’re the only one who’s capable of taking care of yourself!

Cheers to a new you, but with water this time.

You’re So Beautiful, You Don’t Even Know It

As you look into the mirror, you begin to find those small imperfections that no one else will remember. You glance again at the side of your face that appears slightly uneven and then notice a patch of hair that hasn’t grown back within the past few weeks. Your eyes begin to wander—a sunspot here, a pimple there, a scar, a wrinkle, a mole—it just never seems to end.

Now your friends and family are starting to wonder why you’re not behaving like your usual self. They’ll offer to help you fix whatever’s got you feeling out-of-place if it means that you’ll smile again.

What does it mean to be beautiful? Beauty is in the way you laugh and in the way you smile at the things you consider silly. It’s in the way you display bravery at the face of adversity, it’s in the way you put others first, it’s in the way you help them when they’re in the dumps, it’s in the way you treat strangers or how, unbeknownst to you, other people gravitate toward your sunny disposition.

Beauty is in the way you genuinely display your thoughts and feelings, it’s in the way you make others feel accepted and it’s in the way you make them feel loved.

You can be beautiful in the physical sense, but rotten to the core. You can be ruthless, vain, cruel or so greedy that you’re never satisfied with what life has to offer you. Regardless of the affliction, it’s never too late to heal and improve yourself from within.

Just think—while you were too busy caring about your appearance, someone else was thinking about how much you’ve changed their life for the better. You’ll just never get it.

This Is The Only Relationship Advice You’ll Ever Need

Ever since meeting your S.O., your life has become much happier. You feel like a priority, you feel like you’re understood, you feel like you’ve found a puzzle piece to a larger picture.

Yet, for some reason, you notice your relationship heading downhill. You turn to your best friends and family for advice and still – nothing. That’s when your problem really begins.

When asking others for advice in this area of your life, you’re allowing third parties to intervene in your romantic endeavors. Oh, and by the way, this is not an attempt to slander your friends and family.

They will tell you that they only want the best for you. However, what they say will most likely reflect their idea of what constitutes a perfect relationship.

Don’t forget that this isn’t their problem to begin with! All issues, concerns and comments should only be reserved for a healthy conversation between you and your S.O.

So the next time you seek to improve your love life, think carefully about what you want in this relationship and pay attention to your partner’s needs as well. If you don’t know, you’d better find out!

When consumed by emotions, take a step back, breathe deeply and resume conversation as calmly as possible. Try not to glare, fidget, cross your arms or raise your voice in your attempts to resolve any issues. Most importantly, don’t turn to other people for a fresh perspective unless they are professionals with high ratings and a good reputation!

Make sure your relationship goals are achievable and don’t expect instant gratification. Healing comes naturally wherever there is true love.