2018 Didn’t Kill Me, It Made Me Wiser

Freaking out, I applied to a dozen open positions for writing and in retail. Here’s why and here’s what happened after. I also applied to a couple of internship programs during my days off OSH.

Finally, I got an interview with The 7th Magazine during one of my shifts at the hardware store. I left with nothing but encouragement from the store manager and returned an hour later as an intern for the magazine.

As I came back to the register, people kept asking whether I had found a job or not. “I just got an internship writing for a magazine,” I said. Here’s how it started out.

This experience built character for sure. I started out by learning how to design newsletters while managing my time at OSH.

Just when I was getting into the swing of things, I lost access to the Internet for a month. My laptop, currently on life support as my boyfriend likes to say, has to stay plugged into an outlet with an exterior hard drive. You get the picture.

There was one instance when I submitted content via smartphone at a parking lot just to meet deadline.

I wasn’t sure how I was going to manage a job -under liquidation, mind you- and an internship at the same time, but I didn’t quit. I even got published in an interview with Brendan McGetrick for the Global Grad Show in Dubai in September.

I’ll have to admit that I was starting to feel pretty darn good about myself! Stay tuned for 2018 Didn’t Kill Me, It Made Me Smarter! You’ll find out why.

When Life Goes As Planned: What Education Really Gets You Part 1

My life is going according to plan, except I didn’t plan it. At least, not everything. For as long as I could remember, I always carried one goal throughout my life. Buy a house. Whether that meant occupying it with a family of my own or a bunch of cats, I was perfectly happy with the idea of reaching that goal alone. But I knew that I lacked the resources to get my foot into the door.

So unlike the majority of my childhood classmates who became gang-affiliated, juvenile delinquents and teenage parents, I decided to continue my education past high school. Facing those odds was one thing, but getting past them is another. And it all seemed pretty slim at the moment, but I was determined. I’d also like to take a moment to add that I respect the life decisions of the people who still struggle to overcome those same issues today.

I got denied from all of the universities that I applied to. I barely remember them now. What I do remember was betting all of my odds on getting into the California State University of Dominguez Hills. I remember that moment the most because I got denied even though it was my “safe bet.” I was confident and arrogant in thinking that I’d at least make it there as opposed to entering CSU Long Beach, which also denied me earlier that semester.

Okay, so I got denied by all of the universities that I applied to, but I wasn’t going to giving up! I enrolled myself into El Camino Community College six months after graduating high school and chose Journalism as my major.

Just go to school, get out of the dumps and get your head in the game, I thought. From there, my life began to pick up one night in the Fall of 2010. Hours had passed while I scrolled down the list of majors on the ECC website.

And in all honesty, nothing really jumped out to me. The only major that I could relate to was Journalism. It was that or take English. Art classes couldn’t guarantee my financial stability in the future, so I made an effort to choose something that would help me become marketable. And boy, was I wrong.

Zero Words & A Thousand Pictures For The Friendly Type

Complete silence. Dead as a doornail. Pause. Just like that, a conversation comes to a stop. It’s something that people worry about because they aren’t quite sure how to interpret it in general terms.

But then their minds start to wander, as their doubts and concerns start to eat away at their self-consciousness. They ask themselves questions like: Am I weird? Boring? Do I have anything in common with this person? Can we see eye-to-eye? Agree to disagree? Is this conversation over? Do I just let this person go? Are they even paying attention?

Well, that depends on how close the relationship is between the people in question. As we all know, stressing about it won’t make much of a difference for anyone involved in this scenario.

So what can we do about this? What’s the first step? Sometimes we have to understand that this person needs their own space. It’s a sign of respect. It gives them time to make their own decisions like whether they want to return the gesture or not? And then there’s so much more to consider after-the-fact.

Everyone’s got their own style of social etiquette, which mainly goes back to the way they were raised, their background and their personal tolerance for social settings. While this may seem pretty obvious to some, others need a reminder from time-to-time.

However, there’s one question that could be easily missed by all—how badly this person wants you to be in their life? Once you figure it out, the direction of your relationship will become easier to manage. People tend to pitch in the same amount of effort into a relationship that they value.

Regardless, it’s always refreshing to move onto new ventures and new people, who are just as happy with having you in their lives.

Why I Turned My Frown Upside Down

“She doesn’t smile much, does she?” my aunt pointed out one afternoon as we sat across each other on her living room set. I was 11 years old back then, but that moment still lingers even now.

No. I rarely ever smiled and really didn’t say much, either. That all changed once I turned 18. I was determined to become more social in order to make more friends.

Now, I smile as often as I can for an entirely different reason, which is to share positivity with others. Just like you, I’ve got problems too and no one really wants anything to do with drama.

There are too many things in our lives that upset us whether they result in a bad day or when something goes unplanned. I smile for the both of us because someone has to and because happiness is something we can all share.

3 Easy Ways To Improve Your Memory And Survive A Busy Schedule

Lately, it’s become a struggle to remember the smaller details that you’ve forgotten throughout the day. You’ve forgotten things like what you ate for breakfast or what you said about an hour ago and that’s okay! Those things belong in the past!

I’m totally with you and I’ve listed three ways to help you survive your busy schedule starting with this one:

Create a list of things that you have to do

List the most important things that you have to do right now. Like that new project that you have to finish within an hour or the fact that you can actually set some time aside to grab some lunch and maybe a coffee.

Make sure to take care of the time-sensitive things first and then work your way down the rest of the list. Don’t sweat it if the day has already come to an end. You’ve got a lot less on your plate now!

Cut out the fluff

Cut out the habits that you can live without. Indulge occasionally. Are you addicted to social media, but have so much to do? Unless it’s something serious, surely, your friends can wait.

Are you watching YouTube videos and gaming the night away? An hour or two of that is plenty because there’s enough leveling-up to do in real life.

Take care of yourself

This part can’t be said enough. Make sure to drink plenty of water and eat full meals throughout the day. You’ll want to do everything that you can to stop those nasty headaches.

Try to change your daily routine. Your health is at the door, but your brain says your schedule’s booked!

Opening Your Heart Will Change Your Life For The Better

In the day and during the night, you look past all of the lights that shine around you. Your skin feels cold to the touch just looking at the grey clouds in the sky so far away. Time feels like it’s stretching further apart. An hour feels like forever. You stare at the minutes on the clock and feel as if your heart is turning into stone with every second that passes you by.

That’s the feeling of loneliness weighing you down. It closes your heart and poisons your mind. It only takes a little bit of time before you tell yourself that your life isn’t going to get any better. But we all know that that’s a complete lie.

You try to put up a fight, but your body feels so weak– helpless. Hope and faith are two words that never sounded so stupid before up until now. Yet, there’s a reason why you keep reaching out to other people for help. There’s nothing stupid about any of it at all.

So keep reaching out to even more people, keep fighting the same war and keep your chin up. Eventually, the people that you need in your life will come to find you. Yes, they will find you. They will fight this battle along with you, support you and love you just the way you are.

They will hold your hands when you’re feeling lost and light up the small places in your heart that you’ve left forgotten. Their hugs will melt away all of your problems. The problems that have weighed you down for so many years as if for centuries.

That weight around your heart will only feel lighter. Life only gets better.

 

3 Things You Should Know About A Stylish Delight

Up until January, I was just like you. I always judged myself because I thought I wasn’t perfect. For me, that meant being a perfect woman, daughter and the best version of myself.

I always wondered if I was ever going to get to that point in my life. My face was never pretty enough and the number of clothes I owned kept piling up as well.

Then I realized something— it was all in my head. I was just driving myself crazy with all of these bad thoughts. I just took a long time to finally see it. It was through this journey that A Stylish Delight was born just for you.

In addition to it’s focus on mental health, fashion and beauty, here are three things you should know about this website:

I want to help you survive the same struggles as I did

I want to share personal experiences through short bursts of information so that it’s quick and easy to read wherever you go. I also want to avoid writing those long, 1,200-word articles with titles, titles and more studies.

You know, the ones with long words that no one really uses in real life? Not everyone understands or remembers them and besides, it’s just not my style. I just want you to know that you are not alone in this journey.

Mental health is a gateway to inner beauty

This website is about accepting the beauty of our hearts and minds. You are more beautiful than you’ll ever realize, but in order to get a preview of that, you’ll have to put in work, too. Ugh, I know, right?

Who said that becoming a better version of yourself was going to be easy? In a world where we see almost everything at face value, it’s easy to forget that we are human beings, too. Now all you have to do is accept everything about yourself.

It started off as a nightly journal entry on an iPhone

For the past two years, I would take out my iPhone and jot down all of the thoughts that bothered me. I would think about the things that I said or the way I behaved and try to get to the bottom of it. Although I didn’t want to admit it at first, writing my heart out made me feel so much better.

At that time, I didn’t feel like sharing anything with anyone just yet. I was angry, tired and frustrated by the fact that I was handing all of my power to these thoughts that really didn’t matter.

I also knew that getting professional help would cost a lot more money than I can dream of having right now. So instead of feeling bad for myself, I’m sharing what I’ve learned throughout my journey with you!

Much love from yours truly,

Diane