2018 Didn’t Kill Me, It Made Me Smarter

As OSH’s final days loomed closer, I decided to face reality.

Interning at The 7th Magazine was the right experience that I needed as a journalism major. However, there were still some financial obligations to settle at home.

Before I could think, my body moved on its own. I was already on Indeed, scrolling through job listings and ready to submit another application for retail.

I got a call back within a week from most of the places I applied to this time. One interviewer made it clear that I was underemployed and overqualified for the position she had opened.

For some reason, the thought had never occurred to me. My mind was already fixed on making ends meet, I suppose.

So I went home, hoping for another call – and I got it! Wanna hear more about that experience? Read this if you skipped it earlier and scroll down to the second half.

Safe to say, I ended up working as a seasonal sales associate at See’s Candies during the Christmas season. I made sure to sample and help the team sell high quality chocolates to our clients with a smile.

Of course, I’d have a sample, too.

However, there was one caveat. My health declined and almost gave up during December of 2018. Defeated by my own immune system, I would show up to work only to return home with a sorer throat and even more chills.

To my surprise, the store managers and supervisors were always super supportive and understanding. I still thank our team from the bottom of my heart.

I explained that my body was recovering much slower than usual due to stress. I spent most of my paychecks buying groceries for me and my mom.

However, that wasn’t enough. We were beginning to starve and my health wasn’t getting any better for it.

Stick around for my next blog post where we will dive further into this story. In the meantime, click this! Thank you for your support!

Why I Turned My Frown Upside Down Part 2

“You have a beautiful smile,” a schoolmate told me one afternoon as we sat across each other during lunch period. That was the first time I had ever heard anyone my age say that I was physically beautiful in any way—let alone in public! I was 21 back then with very low self-esteem.

But now I realize that it wasn’t my smile that was just beautiful—er, at least according to the people I’ve met since then. My classmate had the right idea all along… it was her comment that was even more beautiful. Her positivity made an impression that lasts to this day.

That’s the kind of spirit that we need to see more often and practice in our daily lives. Everyone around us already have enough problems to deal with so why not make their time on Earth a little more pleasant? I know this will sound pretty cliché, but a little DOES go a long way. I know that for a fact because I treasure these small moments today.

Why I Turned My Frown Upside Down

“She doesn’t smile much, does she?” my aunt pointed out one afternoon as we sat across each other on her living room set. I was 11 years old back then, but that moment still lingers even now.

No. I rarely ever smiled and really didn’t say much, either. That all changed once I turned 18. I was determined to become more social in order to make more friends.

Now, I smile as often as I can for an entirely different reason, which is to share positivity with others. Just like you, I’ve got problems too and no one really wants anything to do with drama.

There are too many things in our lives that upset us whether they result in a bad day or when something goes unplanned. I smile for the both of us because someone has to and because happiness is something we can all share.

3 Easy Ways To Improve Your Memory And Survive A Busy Schedule

Lately, it’s become a struggle to remember the smaller details that you’ve forgotten throughout the day. You’ve forgotten things like what you ate for breakfast or what you said about an hour ago and that’s okay! Those things belong in the past!

I’m totally with you and I’ve listed three ways to help you survive your busy schedule starting with this one:

Create a list of things that you have to do

List the most important things that you have to do right now. Like that new project that you have to finish within an hour or the fact that you can actually set some time aside to grab some lunch and maybe a coffee.

Make sure to take care of the time-sensitive things first and then work your way down the rest of the list. Don’t sweat it if the day has already come to an end. You’ve got a lot less on your plate now!

Cut out the fluff

Cut out the habits that you can live without. Indulge occasionally. Are you addicted to social media, but have so much to do? Unless it’s something serious, surely, your friends can wait.

Are you watching YouTube videos and gaming the night away? An hour or two of that is plenty because there’s enough leveling-up to do in real life.

Take care of yourself

This part can’t be said enough. Make sure to drink plenty of water and eat full meals throughout the day. You’ll want to do everything that you can to stop those nasty headaches.

Try to change your daily routine. Your health is at the door, but your brain says your schedule’s booked!

I’m Another Caged Bird Who Sings

Up until about two years ago, I used to poke fun at the very idea of writing a journal entry. Until one night, for no reason in particular, when I gave it a shot and spilled out all of the thoughts that I had kept bottled up inside of me.

Each night, I wrote one note after another, adding them to a pile of entries or turning them into sad songs. Sometimes I simply tossed them out into the ether and sometimes I buried these feelings deep down in my heart. As I was doing this, I slowly felt all of the weight on my shoulders lighten up.

So I kept writing and writing about depression until last year in late January, when my life made a complete turn-around.

I started dating my wonderful boyfriend and for the first time in my entire life, I felt all of my problems solve themselves out naturally. Ever since entering my life, my boyfriend has given me a chance to live outside of of the rough world that I’m still trapped in.

When I’m with him, I can put my guard down and speak my mind. I don’t have to play those silly games where you talk over each other in order to share your opinions. I’m free to share my deepest fears and feel all of the warmth that I’ve never thought I’d find in someone else.

Today, I’m happy, fulfilled and living in a way I’ve never pictured before. I’m finally a little more free from those petty mind tricks that I face almost every single day. The ones where people have to one-up and pressure each other just for sport. The ticking-time-bomb-wannabes, who are ready to blow up with the slightest touch just because they feel like it.

Because they don’t care about what you have to say. It’s a rough environment to live in. I’ve watched relationships go from stale to abusive and I’ve seen people lose their minds trying to get out of here. Everything is flaming-hot or ice-cold because there’s rarely anything in-between.

After more than 20 years of living on this spec of dust, I’ve finally found a place where the sun shines all year round and the grass is literally much greener. The songs that I sing now are about a world isn’t entirely a bad place at all.

Opening Your Heart Will Change Your Life For The Better

In the day and during the night, you look past all of the lights that shine around you. Your skin feels cold to the touch just looking at the grey clouds in the sky so far away. Time feels like it’s stretching further apart. An hour feels like forever. You stare at the minutes on the clock and feel as if your heart is turning into stone with every second that passes you by.

That’s the feeling of loneliness weighing you down. It closes your heart and poisons your mind. It only takes a little bit of time before you tell yourself that your life isn’t going to get any better. But we all know that that’s a complete lie.

You try to put up a fight, but your body feels so weak– helpless. Hope and faith are two words that never sounded so stupid before up until now. Yet, there’s a reason why you keep reaching out to other people for help. There’s nothing stupid about any of it at all.

So keep reaching out to even more people, keep fighting the same war and keep your chin up. Eventually, the people that you need in your life will come to find you. Yes, they will find you. They will fight this battle along with you, support you and love you just the way you are.

They will hold your hands when you’re feeling lost and light up the small places in your heart that you’ve left forgotten. Their hugs will melt away all of your problems. The problems that have weighed you down for so many years as if for centuries.

That weight around your heart will only feel lighter. Life only gets better.

 

3 Things You Should Know About A Stylish Delight

Up until January, I was just like you. I always judged myself because I thought I wasn’t perfect. For me, that meant being a perfect woman, daughter and the best version of myself.

I always wondered if I was ever going to get to that point in my life. My face was never pretty enough and the number of clothes I owned kept piling up as well.

Then I realized something— it was all in my head. I was just driving myself crazy with all of these bad thoughts. I just took a long time to finally see it. It was through this journey that A Stylish Delight was born just for you.

In addition to it’s focus on mental health, fashion and beauty, here are three things you should know about this website:

I want to help you survive the same struggles as I did

I want to share personal experiences through short bursts of information so that it’s quick and easy to read wherever you go. I also want to avoid writing those long, 1,200-word articles with titles, titles and more studies.

You know, the ones with long words that no one really uses in real life? Not everyone understands or remembers them and besides, it’s just not my style. I just want you to know that you are not alone in this journey.

Mental health is a gateway to inner beauty

This website is about accepting the beauty of our hearts and minds. You are more beautiful than you’ll ever realize, but in order to get a preview of that, you’ll have to put in work, too. Ugh, I know, right?

Who said that becoming a better version of yourself was going to be easy? In a world where we see almost everything at face value, it’s easy to forget that we are human beings, too. Now all you have to do is accept everything about yourself.

It started off as a nightly journal entry on an iPhone

For the past two years, I would take out my iPhone and jot down all of the thoughts that bothered me. I would think about the things that I said or the way I behaved and try to get to the bottom of it. Although I didn’t want to admit it at first, writing my heart out made me feel so much better.

At that time, I didn’t feel like sharing anything with anyone just yet. I was angry, tired and frustrated by the fact that I was handing all of my power to these thoughts that really didn’t matter.

I also knew that getting professional help would cost a lot more money than I can dream of having right now. So instead of feeling bad for myself, I’m sharing what I’ve learned throughout my journey with you!

Much love from yours truly,

Diane